My 2012 - An Overview

 

 

The Year 2012 was a bag of mixed emotions. Some very happy moments and some sad. But overall it was a good year, and like my friend always tells, its only the happy things that stay, bad everyone forgets.

 

 

The Questionnaire-

1. Best Moment of the year- Coming back to India finally on 1st April 2012

2. Best Finding of the year- Didn't find anything Best

3. Best Asset of the year- Friends

4. Best Learning of the year- You have to be selfish somewhere. I learnt but have yet to learn how to be implement.

5. Best Decision taken in 2012- Following my dreams

6. Top 5 movies of the year- Agneepath, Cocktail, Barfi, Kahaani, Vicky Donor

7. Top 5 songs of the year- liked many. naming 5 will be injustice.

8. Saddest Moment of the year- Losing a loved one...

9. One bad thing happened in 2012 - I am selfish in this case... Don't want to share

10. Something you loved and lost in 2012- Did i? If i lost it, it was never mine, i misunderstood.

11. Your long awaited desire fulfilled in 2012- Living in my home in kerala for 2 months.

12. Your Best Click of the year-  Will post few of them in next post.

13. Your Best new place visited in 2012 - Went many places.

14. A new and interesting food joint discovered in the year- Sereneya, A tibetan restaurant in Malad West, mumbai

15. Best Dream you saw in 2012 (While sleeping)- Saw someone with me at our home.

16. One new love/interest developed in the year- to Read.

17. Best Family Moment of the year- In dec 2012, there was a perfect moment i had dreamt.

18. Best office moment of the year- When My team in Qatar came to see me off at airport.

19. One change in you from 2012- Little impatient nowadays.

20. Any new habit adopted in 2012- Don't know about it

21. A wish pending for 2013- To hear someone express what i really wish to happen

 

 

This was my friend's idea. You guys who want to do the same can go ahead. Take care...

Is It the System or Us??

Nowadays whenever I switch on a news channel or any newspaper, the main highlight is CRIME AGAINST WOMAN. Everywhere it is the Delhi rape case or some other crime against woman which is being discussed. I had promised myself to avoid writing about it, not because I am least bothered about a human life or I do not respect women, but I just didn't want to be a part of people who just talk and blame. To my agony, I recently saw some of my friends from abroad putting up statuses saying 'How India is unsafe for Woman and every 20 minutes a rape happens in India'. Well I do not know how to react, how to tell them that this is not true, but then it is us only who are portraying this in front of the world. Instead of finding a solution, we somehow are making lots of hoolah.

When I think about the incident, I wonder who is to be blamed. The government, the police or is it us? I won't blame the girl or the friend because that is the most foolish thing anyone could say. Travelling in a public bus or going out with a friend is in no way a mistake. But I want to ask myself and all these people who are actually standing out on the road, showing their anger. What have we done, are we not somewhere responsible in this? I feel we all have some hand in it, and we are doing it without our knowledge.

Statistics shows, 65% of the accused in all the rape cases are juvenile or in their early 20's. Apart from rape cases which have increased in the recent times, if you try to account more crimes against woman, the cases where Acid is thrown on a girls face or abduction of girls also have increased. Sad part is that these cases go unreported or do not have much TRP to be shown on news channels. Majority accused in all these cases are in their teens or late twenties. What is this telling us? Are these people born rapists or can't they identify what is wrong or right? Well I think we all are the reason for increasing this number at such a rate.

How many times have you been a part of discussion, where a friend of yours has proposed to a girl and she rejected him. Try to recall it and look at it from an outsider’s viewpoint. You will find that we rarely try and console the person, instead we are mock them that he has been let down by a girl, a meagre creature, adding agony to an already hurt person. This agony somewhere turns in to need to revenge. 100% of acid throwing cases have a similar story like this behind them. She dumped me or didn't say yes to be my friend and I felt insulted, and took revenge.

Somewhere I also feel that our society is moving in a direction where Women are now considered as a commodity. Those who don't agree, please tell me why is there a need of an item number in movie then. If you want to create hype, put an item number and people talk about it. Woman will have a role to sing and dance only while guy is the hero who fights and leads the way. Similarly, if you have a girlfriend or a woman around you, you are a DUDE or else you are nothing. You have an event, you need tall models in short dresses to stand at the gates, if you are in sales, you try to hire good looking woman to increase your sales and send them for sales pitch, Cheer girls for cricket matches and so many more situations where women are used like a product. What are we doing? We are actually killing their value and that is why every tom dick and harry thinks he can pick up any second girl from the road, do what he wants and then throw her on road. And mostly these thoughts are really boosted when you are drunk, which we have seen as most of the accused of rape cases are drunk when they committed that horrifying crime.

We blame the police that they don't do their duties. What about our civic duties?? There were reports that people were taking pictures of the girl who was raped and thrown on road naked. Instead of informing authorities and draping that poor soul, we click pictures. Are we humans anymore? News guys who are supposed to create awareness are using these opportunities to increase the TRP's. Infact everyone is trying to take on this opportunity and utilize it in their way. The supposed God men preaching about gods and telling that rape victim should have called for god. Sms company sending messages creating chains and forwarding the message, where they earn money on bulk messages.

In all this what we forget is that we are not taking any step to prevent these incidents in future. Its not new to have protests and candle march. In 2008 Scarlett Case pulled alot of  International attention towards rapes happening in India, similarly many more cases there was an uproar, we shout, we scream and then we expect the police and government to do their duties. What have we done to change the situation?

 

How many of us have ever thought of organizing a community patrolling in your own area during nights? How many of us have offered our neighbourhood women help if we find them going alone in night? Have we ever tried to make our friend realize that, if a girl has dumped him or said no to him, it is good for both of them, because it is better than having a relationship where either of them is not happy. If i talk about rape cases, how many times have we tried to help a woman when you see that she is being harassed or in danger. And how many of us have come forward and helped a rape victim to come back and live life normally. When you see a crime happening, report it or try to stop it, instead of being selfish.

We have to work on which can improve the condition of society. I am not saying that these silent protests should be stopped, but we need to act more and work to improve our society.